Wednesday, June 15, 2022
We are so excited to tell you that we are going to be grandparents. And yet our announcement comes with some mixed emotion because none of our children are married.
Scott and I both grew up in Christian homes, and one of the pillars of our faith was “no sex outside of marriage.” This boundary stems from many passages in the Bible. In Timothy 5 Timothy explains single men and women should treat each other as brothers and sisters. In Romans 12 Paul urges us to keep our bodies holy and offer them as a sacrifice to God. In Hebrews Paul says straight up marriage should be honored and the marriage bed kept pure. In Genesis 2 we see the first description of marriage and in Ephesians the husband wife relationship is paralleled with Jesus’ relationship with the church. There’s plenty of scripture to back up what our parents were drilling into our hearts and minds all those years. So what did we do? We drilled the same into our kids’ hearts and minds.
But how do you mesh that with real life?
Kiana went away to college last fall and honestly fell head over heels for a guy on the football team. It seemed as though there weren’t any Christians around except for one, and he was a cutie. He was quiet and shy, he was tall and strong, and he could recite more scripture than Kiana could. Kiana says he reminded her of Scott; not the Scott that you know in public, but the Scott that she knows here at home. Having never experienced a connection like this before, the relationship moved quickly and they made a baby. (I suppose having inherited super fertility powers from her parents didn’t help.) They didn’t realize it at first, and they continued to date and grow in their relationship. They started praying together at the end of the day, they took walks in the park to avoid the frat parties, they met in the cafeteria for lunch. It was, and is, a very sweet relationship.
You can imagine our shock (and her shock) when we found out Kiana was pregnant. Our baby is having a baby, and boy do we love babies, but it will come with great sacrifice … or will it?
How do we mesh this with real life? With great joy, with grace, with trust and faith in a God who is so much bigger than our feeble rule-following ways here down on Earth. Is God grieved by the moment Kiana and her man stepped over the line? Yes, I think He is. Is he limited by that, surprised by that, overcome with grief by that? No, I don’t think He is. Did Kiana have to get pregnant that night? Nope, many women don’t. So how do Kiana and her man, and Scott and I, process all of this? We choose to celebrate. We are grateful for this gift, this precious new person, and we see her as someone who was always meant to be. We embrace Kiana’s road to motherhood as God’s calling on her life, not as a sacrifice or a road block or a less-than-ideal path.
So if you see Kiana out and about, please say “Congratulations.” She is worried about what you are thinking about the youth pastor’s daughter, but she is proud and excited to be expecting a baby girl.
And dear sweet baby girl, we can’t wait to meet you. You have a mother and a father with sweet hearts, great talent, a deep relationship with Jesus, a reliance on the Holy Spirit, and a love for God the Father. You have eleven aunts and uncles, four great grandparents, a country manor to run around, and a grandfather with a big heart and a great sense of humor. And I, as your grandmother, promise to hold you with great pride and tender love. Dear sweet girl, you are in good hands.
I Peter 1
“love one another deeply, from the heart”
1 Peter, an apostle of Jesus Christ,
To God’s elect, exiles scattered throughout the provinces of Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia and Bithynia, 2 who have been chosen according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, through the sanctifying work of the Spirit, to be obedient to Jesus Christ and sprinkled with his blood:
Grace and peace be yours in abundance.
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 4 and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade. This inheritance is kept in heaven for you, 5 who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. 6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 8 Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls.
10 Concerning this salvation, the prophets, who spoke of the grace that was to come to you, searched intently and with the greatest care, 11 trying to find out the time and circumstances to which the Spirit of Christ in them was pointing when he predicted the sufferings of the Messiah and the glories that would follow. 12 It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves but you, when they spoke of the things that have now been told you by those who have preached the gospel to you by the Holy Spirit sent from heaven. Even angels long to look into these things.
13 Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. 14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”[a]
17 Since you call on a Father who judges each person’s work impartially, live out your time as foreigners here in reverent fear. 18 For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors, 19 but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect. 20 He was chosen before the creation of the world, but was revealed in these last times for your sake. 21 Through him you believe in God, who raised him from the dead and glorified him, and so your faith and hope are in God.
22 Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart.[b] 23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. 24 For,
“All people are like grass,
and all their glory is like the flowers of the field;
the grass withers and the flowers fall,
25 but the word of the Lord endures forever.”[c]
And this is the word that was preached to you.