Dex & Proverbs


Wednesday April 20, 2016

Theo did really well last Friday at his monthly appointment.  His counts were sky high!  They kept him on the 75% dose because they still don’t think he’s ready for a full dose, which is just fine with me.

Theo’s medicine combinations at home change each day of the week so I always write his medicine count on our kitchen white board.  He then crosses out each number as he takes a dose.  This helps me to keep track of what I’ve given him and it gives him a sense of accomplishment dose by dose.

Today Theo completed the last of his 10 doses of Dex for the month.  Dex is the steroid that Theo takes at home to counterbalance the drain of chemo.  Our nurses tell me that the teenage boys hate Dex the most out of all the medicines on the list.  Like any steroid it takes you on a real emotional roller coaster.  We have taught our older kids that when they see “Dex” written on the board that they should give Theo some extra space.  This week I called Theo the “Hulk” a few times, (which I probably shouldn’t do), but he literally would rise up on his tip toes and growl at the most random moments.

Dex happens once a month for us and this repeating week always leaves me longing for more wisdom as a parent.  How do you handle your son when he turns into the Hulk but you know it’s the medicine’s fault?  How do the rules continue, or change, or do you postpone the rules altogether?  How do you encourage the other 7 kids who are running in fear, or are fed up and ready to fight back?  This leads me to my favorite chapter of Proverbs.

A few years ago a friend and role model of mine wrote Scott and I a letter.  Her passion for the Lord and her passion for her friends is an inspiration.  She described how her family began morning family devotions and what a positive impact it was having on everyone. She wanted to encourage us to do the same.  Nothing complicated, nothing too time consuming, but a moment every morning together before the day began.  Scott and I were inspired and we too began our own morning family devotions.  We started reading one chapter of Proverbs each morning out loud at the kitchen table.  We required our school kids to be present and to actually have their eyes open.  The preschoolers were allowed to sleep in or drag their blankets around the kitchen.  We read the chapter that corresponded with the day of the month, and then Scott took the main idea of the chapter and prayed for us as a family.

Fast forward two years and our tradition continues.  It’s amazing to see how the kids can finish many lines of each chapter, just from simple repetition.  Some mornings it’s all we can do to finish reading while dodging spilt coffee or refereeing grumpy snarls across the table.  Some mornings we get talking about a verse and we’re able to apply it all day long together.  Every morning the kids begin their day with Dad and God’s Word.  It is time well spent.

As it pertains to needing wisdom, Proverbs Chapter 8 is my go-to chapter.  There are two lessons I always remind myself from verses 34 and 35.  First, how often should I be looking for wisdom? Daily.  Second, will I receive that wisdom instantly?  Nope.  I image myself sitting on the front step locked out of our house.  ‘Wisdom isn’t home right now, but she’ll be right back.  You’ll have to sit and wait. Oh, and be sure to come back tomorrow and sit and wait again.’  Got it.

These verses are a great encouragement when I pray and I don’t feel any better afterward or when I ask for wisdom and I don’t get an answer right away.   Wisdom is available for everyone, for every situation.  God promises us in James 1 that when we ask for wisdom He will give it to us.  But, He warns us in Proverbs 8 that it just might take some time and diligence on our end.  So be it.

Happy Waiting

Proverbs 8:34 & 35

Blessed is the one who listens to me,
watching daily at my gates,
waiting beside my doors.
35 For whoever finds me finds life
and obtains favor from the Lord,

James 1:5

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.